23 May 2005 at 6:28 pm
I just don’t know what on earth Jemma, Natasha and Jade were thinking of to go on telly and let the tabloids take photos of them and interview them. It was never going to be pretty.
SISTERS Jemma, Natasha and Jade Williams proudly pose with their tots — after getting pregnant aged 12, 16 and 14. The three girls and their children share a council home in Derby with their twice-divorced mum Julie, 38. None of the toddlers’ dads is supporting their children — so the Williams family rakes in £31,000-a-year benefits.
Newspaper pieces like these really get my goat (and it’s not just The Sun – everyone’s at it today, see here and here). Every time we put another teenage mum on the front cover of the paper, we legitimise the prejudice she faces from other people. And it is prejudice. 90% of teenage mums aged 16-17 are on benefits (as you would expect, as continuing a pregnancy as a teenager is overwhelmingly something that happens to young women from deprived or disadvantaged areas), but young mums aged 16-17 are entitled to between £10 and £22 less per week than older mums on benefits. Anecdotally, young mums experience real discrimination at school, with many being informally excluded, despite government guidance that says that pregnancy isn’t grounds for exclusion. They also get it in the neck from healthcare professionals – one young mum that I’ve met had the midwife’s hand held over her mouth through her labour to “stop her making so much noise” - and from the general public, who think they have a perfect right to comment on them and disapprove of them.
Now, what I’m not saying is that what these young women have done is to be applauded. I’m saying that if we want them to get off benefits and one day get a career and provide for their families, we shouldn’t demonise them. Fewer than 8 young women aged under 16 in a thousand give birth every year, so this case is quite unusual.
I’m encouraged that two of the young women are still in school – less than one in three teenage mums stay in education – and the “free nursery care” that they get absolutely indispensable in making this happen – it’s a small scale government scheme called “Care to Learn”, which is paid directly to the childcare provider if the teenage mum goes back to school or college, up to £5k per year. So that’s £10k of that notorious £31k they get accounted for, leaving £21k p.a. to support two adults, two teenagers and three toddlers. Doesn’t seem exactly the lap of luxury does it? And what’s the alternative, anyway? Is the Sun’s argument that, instead of “raking it in”, these young women shouldn’t get any benefits so that their kids starve? Is that really what they’re calling for here? And would that be anyway for a civilised society to behave?
Of course the dads should contribute to their children (and I hope the CSA gets their act together); I love the way that the Sun and the rest conveniently ignore that it takes two to tango – clearly the young women are entirely to blame for this situation, with the menfolk, who have taken no responsibility at all, getting off scot-free. Double standards that the women can’t escape – because if they’d had an abortion, that would have been wrong too, of course.
Of course young women shouldn’t be getting pregnant at 12, 14 and 16, and their mum has it partly right – school should have taught them better. Too much sex and relationships education is too biological and far far too late. I strongly believe that SRE must be about feelings, relationships and emotions, confidence- and self esteem-building, about teaching young people the skills to negotiate with their partners about condom use, contraception, about when they’re ready and when they’re not. It has to be about biology too, of course, and it has to start early – key stage 1 is my preference – not conversations about anal sex with five year olds, but conversations about relationships and friendships, leading to body changes and where babies come from as they get older, and so on.
But despite all this, young people still say they want their sex education to come from their parents, not from school and not from playground gossip. If you’ve got kids – talk to them, talk to them tonight. If you’re not sure where to start, Parentline Plus have got an amazing set of resources here. And the other way to prevent teenage pregnancy? Ensure that your daughter is confident and has aspirations for a career. Young women with a future and a means of asserting their independence and adult status don’t need to become a mother in their teens, and will in most cases make sure they don’t.
PS - if you want to know the real facts about teenage mums, there’s a little bit of information just here.